Why Did You Get Married????

How is your marriage? Are you at odds with each other or do you support and encourage each other? Have you fallen into the trap that marriage is to make you feel good about yourself? Do you task your spouse with the responsibility of making you happy? Do you treat your spouse with less respect than your boss? Your close friends? Your mom/dad?

Marriage is a covenantal union designed to enhance and strengthen the capacity of both partners to carry out God’s plan in their lives.

Malachi 2:13-14 (NIV)

Another thing you do: You flood the Lord’s altar with tears. You weep and wail because he no longer looks with favor on your offerings or accepts them with pleasure from your hands. You ask, “Why?” It is because the Lord is the witness between you and the wife of your youth. You have been unfaithful to her, though she is your partner, the wife of your marriage covenant.

Strongholds show up in marriages when the partners no longer realize that marriage is a covenant. How about you? Some people have no idea what a 

covenant even is!

If you are having marital problems revisit the definition of a covenant:

cov·e·nant

Noun: an agreement, usually formal, between two or more persons to do or 

not do something specified.

Law: an incidental clause in such an agreement.

Ecclesiastical: a solemn agreement between the members of a church to act 

together in harmony with the precepts of the gospel.

Bible: the conditional promises made to humanity by God, as revealed in Scripture.The agreement between God and the ancient Israelites, in which God 

promised to protect them if they kept His law and were faithful to Him.

In summary: Biblical covenants are spiritually binding legal arrangements that God makes between Himself and His people. Covenants have 5 main ingredients:

1. the rulership of God
2. the alignment established by God
3. the boundaries of the covenant that God has laid out
4. the blessings and curses that are attacked to the rules
5. the long-term inheritance of a covenant

The things I hear the most when there are marital problems are the “Gifts of accusation and suspicion”. Guess what? Those are not from God!

Marital conflicts are a spiritual issue.

Ephesians 6:10-13 ¹⁰ Finally, be strengthened by the Lord and by His vast strength. Put on the full armor of God so that you can stand against the tactics of the Devil. For our battle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the world powers of this darkness, against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavens. This is why you must take up the full armor of God, so that you may be able to resist the evil day, and having prepared everything, to take your stand.  

Your spouse is not your enemy. We need to realign our thoughts in keeping with God’s viewpoint of a covenantal marriage. When we do adhere to God's definition and viewpoint of marriage, death and destruction invade the marriage….the result is NOT the reason we got married.

Marriage is a covenant not a social contract. It is not based according to our viewpoint, our emotions, our feelings at the moment. It is based on God’s rules for covenantal relationship. God should be the one ruling in each marriage—not Satan. Simple choice actually.

What does this have to do with intercession?

He is coming for a Bride. He told us to be faithful in little so He could give us much. Are you faithful in your marriage covenant? 

Let’s concentrate on praying for marriages. It will bring healing to hearts, strengthen the body of Christ and open the way for His return to a faithful house!